October 17, 2016

Switching on Compassion: News from Neuroscience

There’s lots of compelling information emerging from neuroscience about compassion. That’s good news because, frankly, we need it. You see, the really good news is that we’re hard-wired for compassion. Speaking at a conference in Telluride, Colorado, The Science of Compassion: Origins, Measures and Interventions, sponsored by Stanford University Medical School’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research, Stephen Porges, Ph.D. presented the following […]
October 7, 2016

Why is Conflict So Hard? How to Manage it More Productively

Despite the worn-out demands that the workplace is no place for “”personal feelings,” people bring all of their unresolved emotional baggage to work – and there is little we can do about that. Outmoded collective beliefs that endure like – work life and personal life should be separate – speak to a lack of knowledge about the new science  of emotions […]
July 21, 2016

Your Vacation State of Mind

Everything is a state of mind. Your vacation, whether you are hiking, lying on a beach, sitting at an outdoor cafe in France or simply “staycationing” at home with a good book reflects your state of mind.  Generally we tend to think of a vacation based on the externals – amount of time we have off from work, our budget, […]
October 11, 2015

There is Nothing Soft about "Soft Skills"

Ever since I began to work in the business world, the term “soft skills” always felt off to me. The more I come to appreciate the complexity of human dynamics, the more off it feels. In my experience, there is nothing soft or easy about mastering people skills. In fact, when I look around, especially in the workplace, clear and effective […]
September 1, 2015

Cynicism – The Price We All Pay

“Cynicism is an unproductive reaction to disappointment. It springs from the helplessness people feel when they are disappointed by others and allow themselves to become detached observers rather than active participants. It carries with it a sense of entitlement that says, “You have disappointed me therefore  my cynicism is justified.”        Jamie & Maren Showkeir  Have you become a cynic?  If so, […]
October 14, 2013

FEAR in the Workplace

“Fear is an aggressive predator of joy and creativity in the workplace.” Terence Deal & M.K. Key The price tag on fear is high – for business and our own well-being. Emotional contagion is real. Fear is catchy. Old fears get easily activated. The way we talk to ourselves is a critically important factor in how we activate our fears. External […]
September 9, 2013

5 Reasons Why Business Can’t Afford to Ignore Psychology For Another 100 Years!

“The problem with business is that it is afraid of dealing with the business of people.”   W. Edwards Deming Honestly, we don’t get it.  Why is business still so ignorant about the basics of human dynamics? Awareness of human psychology as it applies to work has evolved at a glacial pace while technology flies by it at the speed […]
June 27, 2013

Emotional Intelligence ~ 20 Years On ~ Part 2

Continuing the conversation started in Part 1 of this article – several key questions keep surfacing.  One is the often unspoken tension between EI (Emotional Intelligence) and what is typically thought of as “therapy.” For anyone who has been involved in a therapeutic process, it’s immediately clear that learning and applying EI principles is very different from being “in therapy.” […]
March 21, 2013

A Different Kind of Spring Detox

“Spring has returned. The earth is like a child that knows poems. Rainer Maria Rilke     In this part of the world we celebrate the Spring Equinox this week.  Renewal, growth and beginnings all come to mind when we think about spring. For the winter-weary, spring brings relief that the harsh weather is close to an end.  The promise […]