February 15, 2014

Reclaiming the Power of Your Intuition Part 2

    “The first step is intuition and it comes with a burst.” Thomas Edison Born in 1847, Thomas Alva Edison wasn’t a particularly bright child. He was intensely curious and started conducting experiments from the time he was a child. His entire schooling consisted of three months (fortunately his mother was a teacher).  When he was a teenager, an […]
November 14, 2013

Don’t Get Stuck in Your Story

Every person grows up carrying a narrative about who they are.  Most of that story is formed early in childhood with new chapters added to include adolescence and experiences as adults. The childhood stories are mostly formed by our parents and significant care-givers’ narratives about who they think we are. Mom says, “Tom’s a dreamer and very creative.” Dad says, […]
October 24, 2013

We’re Up Against our Mindsets

Mindsets aren’t a new concept to me. I’ve been working with my own for a long time. I’m now conscious that I’ve constructed walls and obstacles that are buried deep within my thinking patterns.  I’ve also had the good fortune to understand that many of these blocks in my thinking aren’t even my own. I inherited them or was taught […]
October 10, 2013

Forgiveness at Work – Cleaning our Emotional House

“Forgiveness is a lovely idea until you have someone to forgive.”  C.S. Lewis I’ve thought a lot about forgiveness lately. Often when we face life’s major passages, a flood of old thoughts and feelings suddenly reappear. But I must admit that I am not at the place where I started when I began to think about the concept of forgiveness for this […]
September 26, 2013

Blind Spots ~ Getting Past Our Fixed Mindsets

When I consider my past, I’m amazed at what I just did not see.  I wonder – what was I thinking at the time? Experience is not only a great teacher in the moment, but it gives us a context that changes our perception going forward.  Once you know what you know – about your own behavior, a job, a […]
September 19, 2013

Befriending Anger ~ (from the Emotion Series)

“Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you to understand what you need and what you value.” Thich Nhat Hah For seven years I regularly facilitated seminars on conflict resolution.  Most of the group participants wanted answers to problems they saw as the source of their conflict. Usually this had to do with fixing the behavior of […]
July 18, 2013

Lie to Me ~ revisited

Some years ago, I wrote a post inspired by– Lie to Me, a popular 2009 TV series. The premise was based on the expertise of a scientist, whose exceptional talent to solve crimes through facial deception detection, caught the “liar” every week.   Easy Hollywood math – clever, gifted sleuth outwits crafty criminals and justice is served – in less than […]
February 20, 2013

Curiosity – the Go-To Emotion

“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.  Dorothy Parker I was a really curious kid. How about you? They say all kids (and apparently cats) are curious. Of course that’s true (I mean about the kids, I don’t know enough about cats to make that claim) but I was a very curious kid. I always […]
December 6, 2012

Resolving Conflict: Going Beyond "Who Started It?"

“When patterns are broken new worlds emerge” Tuli Kuperberg What does a “who dunnit” in a work team have to do with a global conflict, or for that matter, any conflict? Looking at any major conflict one easily sees that they are usually convoluted, long-standing and seemingly intractable.  Working with many team and organizational conflicts one finds many of them to […]