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Gratitude, Kindness and Caring in the Workplace

November 10, 2011

I’ve decided to jumpstart the Thanksgiving season by recycling several very popular past posts.  What I’ve noticed in the past few months is that these posts (and several related ones) consistently show up in the top-tier.  While we don’t need a holiday (hopefully) to feel and show our gratitude, kindness and caring towards others – it certainly is a good time for reflection on what we value deeply and how we live our values.

We begin with Creating a Culture of Gratitude in the Workplace. Gratitude is one of my “Go To” emotions. One of the competencies of emotional intelligence is developing the ability (this is ongoing work) to cultivate the emotions that create positive self-supportive energy within us. For me, gratitude is grounding. It helps remind me of who I am – and where I want to be — even if I’ve taken a temporary detour. I find it especially centering when I get lost in too much comparing and striving. Gratitude helps me to re-focus and gain greater clarity and perspective. 

Why Do We Have to “Promote” Kindness at Work  generated a lot of attention. I wrote it in response to a Harvard Business Review article that explored the absence of kindness in today’s workplace. It’s disturbing to me that we have to make the case for people to treat each other with kindness and respect at work.  What many people construe as an empathy void in others, is often just a symptom of Empathy Deficit Disorder brought on by too much self-absorption and distraction.  We all sometimes block our natural empathetic tendencies towards others as a form of emotional self-protection. It’s a natural, but often unconscious response.  Unless we’re aware of what and why we block our feelings, it can become habitual. (P.S. I love the little poem at the end of this post)

You can’t build positive relationships at work if you don’t care about the feelings of other people. I am consistently amazed at how many people expect productive outcomes in work relationships when they don’t show an iota of care in their communication. Short and simple this post, Workplace Relationships – You Have to Care  makes the case  that caring counts

Hope you enjoy!

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Louise Altman, Partner, Intentional Communication Consultants

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5 Comments leave one →
  1. November 17, 2011 5:39 am

    Great that you bring this up! I think authoritarian leadership (ref your latest post) and the lack of gratitude and kindness in the workplace are related.
    Just as this leadership style disempowers people, it also disconnects from their deep absolute Self which is the source of gratitude, empathy…
    Getting back to the core, our “luminous” essential nature will help us change the workplace and this “dépassé” leadership style. Don’t you think?

    • November 17, 2011 8:34 am

      Hi and thanks so much for the comment – on both posts. Yes, I do believe that the authoritarian leadership “style” is disempowering, to the leader and to those around them. My experience in the workplace is that even when people say they do not like this style, or are even suffering from it, they “believe” it is what’s needed to “get the job done.” This is deep part of the cultural conditioning that still dominates the Western model of business. I do think that our core essential nature (beautifully stated) is what will heal the workplace.
      Glad you found the blog and I look forward to checking out your site. Regards, Louise

  2. November 17, 2011 11:45 am

    Thanks Louise. Very interesting thoughts. I will think about it too this week and we can share further ideas !
    Glad to know you.


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